9 Notable POC’s in Kink and BDSM

Since my previous blog posts were a little heavy, I wanted to close out October with a little Kink.

Why?

Because October is National Kink Month. Yes, this is a thing and I’m sooo excited! 😀

According to Yahoo.com, October was declared National Kink Month in 2012 by Stockroom.com, a leading designer and retailer of fetish sex toys and gear based in Los Angeles. October a fantastic fit for National Kink Month because that’s when adults usually indulge in their fantasies openly in the name of Halloween.

Stockroom founder, Joel Tucker, put it best by saying, “Kinky sex is based on experimentation, adventure, and exploration of roles and dynamics that are often different from the day-to-day lives we lead. Halloween, for adults, is an occasion for playing with sexy costumes, assumed identities, and the enjoyment or humor in the darker side of life. (Think of ‘The Addams Family.’) Kink, Halloween, and the month of October are natural  are a natural fit.”

So what exactly is Kink?

According to Kinkly.com, “Kink is an umbrella term used to describe a wide range of sexual activities that are considered to be unconventional or unorthodox. While BDSM [Bondage, Discipline/Dominance, Sadism/ Submission and Masochism] is one of the first things that springs to mind when someone hears the word kink, it’s far from the only kinky practice out there. Sexual acts such as spanking, dripping candle wax on the skin, participating in orgies, swinging and role-playing are also often considered to be kinky, as are some unusual sex positions or usage of sex toys. Anything not kinky is said to be vanilla.”

My first introduction to Kink was when I read the acclaimed erotic novel, Fifty Shades of Grey in 2013. When I tell you I loved this book, I LOVED this book – so much so that I wrote a mock contract for a gentleman I was messing around with during that time.

The contract outlined how many times I wanted to have sex a week, what I wanted after sex, boundaries when we were around mutual connections, specific activities I wasn’t interested in, and protocols regarding our availability for sex AND addressing conflict. I still have a copy of it… 😊

Unfortunately, he kinda ghosted me only to come back to tell me that my “proposal” scared him away. It wasn’t until 2018 that I was reintroduced to kink through a guy named Michael. I mentioned in him this blog post and in this article about my first kink party.

Kink made me feel empowered, fun and sexy. Sadly, some people I know (men and women alike) still view Kink and BDSM as a “white people thing.” To help dispel that line of thinking, I’m spotlighting 9 Notable POCs (People of Color) in Kink and BDSM. Get ready, your social media timeline is about to be even more lit.

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Feminista Jones

Feminista Jones is a Philadelphia-based feminist writer, public speaker and community activist. She is an award-winning blogger and author. Her books include Push the Button (an erotic novel), The Secret of Sugar Water (a poetry collection) and Reclaiming Our Space: How Black Feminists Are Changing the World From the Tweets to the Streets (nonfiction).

Feminista Jones was the first black woman I saw publicly speak about being a submissive (sub) in a BDSM dynamic. Her writing made me feel seen before I fully understood the role of a sub and encouraged me to go on my kinky journey through her writing. You can check her out on Instagram and Twitter. You can also read her latest article, My BDSM has a Dark Side on Zora Magazine here.

 

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JetSetting Jasmine and King Noire

JetSetting Jasmine and King Noire are adult film stars and master facilitators of Kink/BDSM.  Their specialty is flogging. They own an adult film company called Royal Fetish Films and have won awards for various productions. While they are a sexy/sophisticated power couple, they also stand strongly on their own. JetSetting Jasmine is a licensed clinical therapist and King Noire, also known as Hasan Salaam, is a Hip-Hop musician.

What I love about JetSetting Jasmine and King Noire is that they shine together and separately. I also enjoy their vulnerability when they talk about being parents in porn along with their experiences as a polyamorous couple. Check them out here and here.

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Glamazon Tyomi

Tyomi Morgan is a model, blogger, Sexologist and Tantrica from Chicago. She’s also the founder of Glamerotica101.com and Real Love Church. Earlier in her career, she was a contestant on America’s Next Top Model Cycle 14. After being eliminated, she saw a need for black and brown people in the sex/pleasure industry and decided to fill that void. One of her most recent appearances in the spotlight was on WeTV’s Love After Lockup as a cast member’s sex coach.

I admire Tyomi’s knowledge of sex, pleasure and erotica. She can speak about sex scientifically and academically, which you can see in her various articles. She can also successfully teach fellatio and cowgirl techniques to anyone willing to learn from her articles, videos and classes.  But what I love most about Tyomi is her openness about being a little and her participation in kink demos with JetSetting Jasmine and King Noire. You can follow her on Instagram, Twitter and YouTube.

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Mandii B and WeezyWTF

Mandii B and WeezyWTF are the dynamic duo behind the Whoreible Decisions podcast. They’ve been featured on VICE, HBO and other noteworthy media entities. WeezyWTF considers herself a Problematic Feminist and Mandii B dubbed herself as Peg the Stallion. If you’re not sure what pegging is, read this blog post.

I love these women because they talk BOLDLY about sex. No topic is too controversial to touch. They get down and dirty about their personal lives as well as feature a multitude of guests ranging from porn stars, influencers, Dom’s, subs, doctors and activists to talk about kink and sex-positivity. You can follow these lovely ladies here, here and here.

If you want to get a quick kink and BDSM 101 lesson, check out the interview Mandii B did with The Friend Zone here.

 

Orpheus Black

Orpheus Black is an author and erotic educator based in California. Orpheus has been featured on various media entities such as Playboy, LA Weekly, Kink University and Chocolate Radio. He also has won various awards for his work in the kink community. Orpheus’s kink specialties include fire play. knife play and black tie bondage.

When I first got into BDSM, one of my fellow coaches recommended I get into Orpheus’ work. And I’m glad I did. What sets Orpheus apart from his colleagues, in my opinion, is his fusion of BDSM and Buddhism. Yes, you read that correctly. Learning about Orpheus through his writing enhanced my interest in being a submissive through the lens of a black man AND encouraged me to define spirituality on my terms. With his vast knowledge and expertise in BDSM and Kink, you can’t help but fall in love with him. Check him out on his website, Instagram, and Twitter

 

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BlakSyn

BlakSyn is a queer non-binary kink educator, blogger and photographer based out of Philly.  After years of being frustrated by the lack of representation in BDSM, BlakSyn decided to become a sexuality educator to spread awareness of BDSM to marginalized communities. BlakSyn got their start by teaching classes and organizing events to Philly’s QTPOC (Queer and Transpeople of Color) Community. They continue to share their knowledge online and in real life to anyone who’s interested. BlakSyn’s newest endeavor is “Black and Brown and Blue,” a photography project to honor people of color in fetish, BDSM and kink.

I have to stan for BlakSyn because they have taken vulnerability to a new level for me. BlakSyn talks openly about their BDSM sessions, including the highs and lows they experience with consent, and is an advocate for sexual health awareness. If you’re looking to learn about rope tying, flogging and polyamory in an easy to understand way, they are the person to watch. You can follow BlakSyn on Instagram and their blog.

Bonus: Kinks with Keke

Kinks with Keke is a weekly podcast dedicated to kinks, fetishes and BDSM. I don’t know much about the host but I admire how she talks so openly about her kinks and fetishes while educating others about BDSM. As a fellow black woman, she continues to inspire me by just existing. I hope she has a similar impact on you. You can check out her podcast here and follow her on Instagram and Twitter.

Diverse Voices in Kink and BDSM

While 50 Shades of Grey was a great introduction to BDSM for me and many others, I’m so happy the landscape of BDSM is evolving with diverse voices. There are so many other POC’s in Kink and BDSM but I wanted to start with this short but tantalizing list.

I hope this gives you a great introduction to BDSM/Kink and encourages you to live your best sexy life.

Enjoy and get your kink on!

Thanks for reading!

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